How do you know if you should break up or stay in the relationship? When is breaking up the right decision? Is it best to break up and when is it better to work on your relationship – in practical steps and permanently?
This blog theme is for you who is mulling over and can’t reach a decision in that one question: should you break up or stay together and try one more time? When can you trust yourself and know that you have tried enough and it is time to set your partner and yourself free from a relationship that has become a chore.
How do you know when it’s time to break up and time to stay together?
Read the below blog for tips on how to know when it is best to break up or better to stick together and try to improve your relationship for good.
Why do people break up? What are “good” reasons to break up?
While other people’s choices to break up or stay together are irrelevant to your life, other people’s experiences may help you navigate through your own confusion.
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Why do our logical and conscious mind try to explain problems away. By rationalising to dismiss the clear messages from your subconscious is sending us about the looming break up?
When you go through the infinite loop of whether to break up, you owe it to yourself to take the trouble to focus on your subconscious feeling and thoughts with an open mind. Do not deny your thoughts and feelings about breaking up, they are perfectly natural in any relationship.
Help yourself to put an end to your relationship or to your endless ponderings about breaking up.
If you feel ill at ease in your relationship, is it still worth trying and staying together or should you just break up? The (R)evolution for Love blog talks not only about making the decision to break up but also about improving your relationship, cheating, surviving the break up and single life. With one focus: your holistic wellbeing.
Some choose not the break up even if they want to – just because they don’t have the nerve. Read my blog posts and see how conflicted the thoughts of real people about breaking up can be. It’s a taboo for many, and many manage to build themselves a prison that can be easily escaped from.
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Leaving can be particularly difficult if you partner is violent or an alcoholic, but leaving a safe relationship can be very difficult, too. Breaking up is seen as a failure. In a society that only values success, it is difficult decide whether you should or shouldn’t break up, even if, deep down, you already know the answer.
But what if your inner voice is leading you astray? What if your poor relationship still has life in it and could be turned into a functional and rewarding relationship.
How do you know if you should break up? When should you keep trying to improve your relationship?
Where to find the strength and faith to try again? How to make a clear decision to improve your relationship for good and in practical terms? Is willpower and positive thinking enough to fix your relationship?
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Breaking up is scary for most of us and that is why it is difficult to move past just thinking about it. We keep asking ourselves and our friends what we should do. We beat ourselves into trying over and over again, and to finding new ways to bring the spark back into the relationship.
Sometimes a lick of paint is enough to bring a house back to life. While other houses are complete fixer-uppers and need a complete overhaul. It might be best to just sell up and move houses. The same goes for relationships. Some relationships take less work than others to flourish. It could be best to admit that life without the relationship is the better option.
What is a “good” enough reason to break up? When does staying in a relationship make sense?
Some would allow themselves to leave a relationship only if their partner turned violent or cheated on them. Few of those who live in a sexless relationship would rather allow themselves to cheat than to leave.
THE FEAR OF BREAKING UP: “I’m too ashamed to leave.”
Some people stay in an unhappy relationship because of the shame and fear of breaking up. Break-up fear and and shame is common. Why?
People would allow themselves to leave a relationship only if their partner turned violent or cheated on them. Part of those who live in a sexless relationship would rather allow themselves to cheat than to leave.
There’s people that have been “good boys/girls” all their lives. Perhaps were always too busy being “good” to say “thanks but no thanks” to their partner candidate before it was too late. And now the relationship has become too established for them to change their minds. Many linger in the museum that is their relationship, which they never should have started in the first place.
Are you an exhausted middle-aged person who barely survived the busy years? Do you find yourself tossing the coin on if you should break up?
Let’s face it. We are not always meant to stay together forever with our partner. The fact that you saw eye to eye just about everything when you were in your twenties does not mean that your values and lifestyles have remained unchanged and still match. Dynamics of your relationship and your partner may have changed beyond recognition. We may be adults but deep inside all of us there is this little child and the beliefs that this little child holds on to. What are we allowed to do? What do we have to do? Are there rules that we must abide by in our lives?
What is an open relationship? Does it lead to breaking up?
What is an open relationship? Who are non-monogamous open relationships for? Is your partner suggesting consensual non-monogamy?
As we reach middle age, many of us wake up to the fact that the lives of our parents and ourselves are finite. This may lead us to think more profoundly about our lives, perhaps for the first time. Many relationships are tested as we hit the middle age. But is it worth the trouble to break up when we are exhausted after the busy years?
Stress is a devious enemy that can throw our entire lives off kilter. Are you thinking about breaking up just because you are stressed? Learn the many ways available to manage stress so that when it comes to deciding whether to break up you don’t have to toss a coin.
Should you stay or should you go? Peer support from real-life stories
When thinking whether you should break up or stay in your relationship in the future, remember that you are not alone. Many try and calm their minds among the break up stress by telling themselves how so many couples break up this year alone.
Even if it seldom a good idea to compare other people’s lives and decision to those of our own, it is natural for us to reflect other people’s actions, thoughts and emotional reactions. After all, we are herd animals.
Many file for divorce even if they are not yet absolutely certain of their decision. That is why the statutory waiting period is there: to give us time to think.
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Even if you end up breaking up, there is no need to panic. It is becoming more and more common and it is possible to remain friends with your ex. Children will be better off if their parents part in friendly or at least neutral terms. It is much more harmful for them to see their parents argue in an “intact” nuclear family.
Some of the couples who break up continue living under the same roof together with the children. Ex-partners continuing to live in the same property, certain things will obviously need to be resolved. For example, the ex-partners should share the same standards regarding tidiness and other housekeeping etc.
Read more about practical arrangements after breaking up and how housekeeping duties can be redivided between the exes. My book (R)evolution for Love also has a chapter dedicated to this topic, and it offers plenty of peer support for those struggling with these questions.
The (R)evolution for Love book will help reach a decision and support for a permanently improved relationship or a happy single life.
But what if there is no “acceptable” reason for you to want to break up? If your partner is not abusive or an alcoholic and does not cheat? Is your partner a perfectly nice and good person? How do you know when it is time to break up?
(R)evolution for Love – The Book
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If you are thinking whether you should be breaking up or stay together with your partner, use this book as support when making the most important decision in your life. The book contains loads of real-life stories by men and women in happy and unhappy relationships and their experiences of breaking up. This comprehensive 374-page guide will give you plenty of support and practical advice that you can apply in your own unique situation.
The book will give you a profound understanding of why you should approach the possibility of breaking up with acceptance especially if you want a happy relationship based on love, openness and freedom.
This book will help you through your break up process as well as your decision to try to improve your relationship one more time, this time in earnest and for good. It explores what improving a relationship takes in practical terms, from both partners. If you decide that breaking up is for the best, the book will give you valuable insight into what breaking up feels like and how you can find new love after the break up.
(R)evolution for Love book concentrates on how to make the most important decision of your life and how to carry it through successfully and with a happy ending. Regardless of whether that decision is to stay or go.
You are not alone with your thoughts
There are plenty of people out here who are or have been going through what you are experiencing, even if you don’t know them personally. I have interviewed many of them and the reason why I’m writing about this all-important topic is to share their experiences so that you could feel less anxious about completely normal and acceptable thoughts. This very moment, many of you are trying to decide whether they should break up or stay in the relationship with your old, familiar partner. Many have already been through that process. Some of them decided to stay and work on their relationship. Some decided to break up.
Learn about what drives you, and you will become aware what already know.
All you have to do is to listen to yourself. Really listen. Honestly. Don’t dismiss yourself. Read and embrace the true stories and the 57 exercises that have both received plenty of positive feedback.
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The (R)evolution for Love blog talks about the following themes:
A Good Relationship:
What is a good, happy relationship? How to improve your relationship and sex life? If you are in a long relationship and it sometimes feels like you’ve run out of things to say and, with that, run out of sex, how to learn how to talk and show affection in a more fulfilling way than ever? Or how to find a new, balanced relationship where daily life is not a chore and sex is good?
To Break Up or Not to Break Up?
This theme helps you to come to a decision whether or not to end your relationship and stop sitting on the fence. If your relationship makes you uncomfortable, is it worth staying together or would it be best to break up.
Cheating:
One night stand. Or two. A secret affair. Another woman. A third wheel. You name it… Whether it was your partner or you who cheated, read our tips and benefit from the peer support so that you can follow your heart towards a better life after cheating.
CHEATING: One night stand. Secret affair. The other woman.
In this blog on cheating you will get tips and peer support for moving towards a permanently better life when you have been or are cheating.
Wellbeing:
How to boost your wellbeing in a relationship or as a single? Rediscover your joy and peace of mind under the Wellbeing theme!
Beyond Break Up:
How to survive the break up? How to enjoy life when the break up process is still ongoing and your ex is giving you hell? What is life like after the break up? Get peer support in the middle of a break up. Learn to face your ex with dignity and respect after the break up even if towards the end your relationship you hated each other more than anything in the world. Chances are that once the break up is done and dusted, they longer have the power to irritate you and they may turn into a better friend you ever thought possible.
Single life:
Wild and free? Or at least wannabe wild and free? What is single life like and what can you do once you are on your own? Being single only fills you with angst? If you want a relationship but really don’t see yourself going on Tinder or any other dating app or website.
Books & publications:
Peer support and exercises in the (R)evolution for Love: A Better Relationship or a Brilliant Break Up? A relationship guide with a positive approach towards reaching a decision: whether it is to work on improving your relationship or to start the break up process. Read more under the blog articles under this theme, or the reader and radio and press reviews!
Motivating You to mindshifting in many ways,
Your Coach Kati Niemi
Clinical Hypnotherapist, NLP Trainer, M.Sc.
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INFIDELITY and the collected excuses: The good reasons for cheating
CHEATING: What is a good reason to cheat? What do the cheated partner, “the other woman/man” or the cheater choose to believe in?
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