One night stand. A secret affair. The other woman. The third wheel. I your partner or you have cheated, or your lover is married to someone else, if you find yourself the third wheel, read our tips in the Cheating theme and benefit from the peer support so that you can follow your heart towards a better life.
A one-off fling or even a long-term affair do not have to mean the death of an otherwise happy relationship, provided that both partners are ready to process the events for their part. Good Relationship theme focuses on how to improve your relationship. And if cheating turned out to be the death of your relationship – just like with any other reason for breaking up – you will get through it.
The blog theme To Break Up or Not to Break Up talks about making a relationship decision while the theme After the Break Up new life after a relationship is discussed and the new sense of freedom that can be achieved through the process is the topic of the theme Single Life. This page is a summary of the articles in the Cheating theme.
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This Cheating theme will discuss topics such as:
- My partner cheated on me, what should I do?
- I cheated on my partner, but I don’t want to lose him/her, what should I do?
- How can I persuade my lover to leave their partner and start a proper relationship with me?
- Does loving someone stop us from cheating on them?
- Do nice people cheat?
- Why are “good girls” and “nice guys” cheated on more often than others?
- We can’t get past one of us cheating, does our relationship have any future?
- Can I stop my partner cheating on me?
- How can I stop cheating on my partner or stop myself from cheating in the future?
- How many people cheat while in a relationship?
- Where do people cheat?
- When is it possible to cheat without being caught?
- Why do people who are in a relationship cheat?
- What are the reasons for cheating?
- What plausible reasons are there for cheating?
- Why did my partner cheat on me although we regularly have great sex?
How many people cheat while in a relationship?
The ways and situations, the cheaters and the cheated, the partners in crime, they all come in as many shapes and forms as there are relationships. There are plenty of relationships in which partners cheat on each other without necessary losing too much sleep over it, and yet these people would never want to be cheated on themselves.
INFIDELITY and the collected excuses: The good reasons for cheating
CHEATING: What is a good reason to cheat? What do the cheated partner, “the other woman/man” or the cheater choose to believe in?
An extremely high proportion of people have cheated on their partners at least in one of their relationships. For some, this method of escaping their real lives proves effective and becomes a permanent pattern. Cheating may become a hard habit to break even if one wanted to. Even if a person loves their partner dearly, they may still cheat on them. Why? That is one of the questions we try to answer in this blog article: CHEATING AND THE COLLECTED EXCUSES: What is a good reason to cheat?
My partner cheated on me, what should I do?
Many of us want to change our relationship or our partner for a better one, especially if our partner has cheated on us. You can’t stop your partner from choosing to cheat if they so wish. Only they can make their choices. However, you can also make your own choices, and choose the direction of your own path. The point here is to work on your own perspective and owning up to your true feelings. Only few people are ready to do the hard work even if it would prove highly rewarding in the end.
CHEATING: At what stage of evolution is your relationship?
How common is cheating in relationships? Is cheating the cause or the consequence of relationship problems and can it be stopped by love?
Cheating is extremely easy, and for many cheaters, it is just a bit of fun, because they don’t know any better. Some are not than interested in working on their own actions and patterns of behaviour and are not willing to stop cheating even if they swear to their partner that they will. For more on this, read these (R)evolution for Love articles:
How can I persuade my lover to leave their partner and start a proper relationship with me?
If you are the other woman, the other man, the third wheel, and in love with someone who is married to someone else, it is understandable that you want them to leave their partner and start a new, full-on relationship with you. You may be positive that your loved one is the love of your life, and they may have told you they feel the same.
Maybe you feel you are soul mates destined for each other. You might think that you were meant to be together and you want your lover to leave their partner. Chances are the situation has continued like this for a long time and you are beginning to get frustrated.
However, before you do anything rash and waltz into the home of your lover with an ultimatum, take a moment and read the following articles carefully:
Cheating is shameful, which is why it is so difficult to stop
JEALOUS PARTNER: Does your partner’s jealousy drive you mad?
When your partner’s jealousy is getting too much, what could help? What to do when a jealous partner takes the joy out of your relationship?
If you have cheated on your partner, you have a good reason to do so. You may not be conscious of it or ready to admit it, but it is there. Exploring your own thoughts and accepting what is driving you can be scary and excruciatingly shameful. Read more on this topic in the following blog articles: WHAT TO DO WHEN YOU ARE ASHAMED OF CHEATING? “I don’t have the nerve to break up even if I want to.”
For more on this topic, read the articles of this blog theme and, of course, more in-depth in my 374-page solution-centred relationship and break-up positive book (R)evolution for Love – a Better Relationship or a Brilliant Break Up?
Where and when is it easiest to cheat?
One of the best markets for a cheater is social media, where contacting others is easy. Many use the forum to boost their self-esteem by posting photos of themselves and testing the waters in case someone of the opposite sex would be ready to boost their ego. Read more about this topic in these (R)evolution for love blog articles:
- How to use social media if a helpful way to boost your self-esteem?
- Why does this always happen to me?!” or How to stop comparing yourself to others on social media?
- Low self-esteem and social media – fact or fiction?
This is such as wide topic that it has its own chapter in the book The (R)evolution for Love – A better relationship or a brilliant break up?
THE JEALOUS TYPE: Am I too jealous?
“I feel so jealous because of my partner” Jealousy is a painful feeling. Use the power of your subconscious and let go of jealousy!
Who’s cheating whom?
Cheating is associated with numerous myths plus one very important aspect: being nice. Some are so nice they cheat themselves! Therefore, I highly recommend the article on what I’ve dubbed the “nice people’s rebellion”, which describes what the different roles, nice guys and the bad guys, the good girls and the harridans, mean and what cheaters and the cheated are like.
Perhaps just because they are too nice or not nice enough: NICE PEOPLE’S REBELLION: Nice guys and good girls. The book The (R)evolution for Love – A better relationship or a brilliant break up? also has a whole chapter on niceness: ”The nice guy and the bad guy, the good girl and the harridan”. I bet you are wondering what that is all about!
Cheating and sex as a pawn in a relationship: Let’s talk about sex
The book The (R)evolution for Love includes a chapter entitled “Let’s talk about sex”, in which I have discussed good sex and bad sex as well as cheating from an honest but realistic point of view. But is good sex in a relationship ever going to stop someone from cheating?
Open relationship – just an option among many others?
What is an open relationship? What could we all learn from them? Do people in open relationships not experience jealousy?
The mental exercises in the book The (R)evolution for Love will help the reader to decide what the right direction for their relationship is: a better relationship or a brilliant divorce – both are equally valid choices. When working towards a decision, you may also find the blog theme To Break Up or Not to Break Up? useful.
The other (R)evolution for Love blog themes are:
Good Relationship
What is a good, happy relationship? How to improve your relationship and sex life? If you are in a long relationship and it sometimes feels like you’ve run out of things to say and, with that, run out of sex, could you learn how to talk and show affection in a more fulfilling way than ever? Where to find a new, balanced relationship where daily life is not a chore and sex is good? Read more under the Good Relationship theme!
To Break Up or Not to Break Up?
The theme To Break Up or Not to Break Up helps you to come to a decision whether or not to end your relationship and stop sitting on the fence. If your relationship makes you uncomfortable, is it worth staying together or would it be best to break up, read more under the To Break Up or Not to Break Up theme
Cheating:
One night stand. Or two. A secret affair. Another woman. A third wheel. You name it… Whether it was your partner or you who cheated, read our tips and benefit from the peer support so that you can follow your heart towards a better life after cheating. Read more under the Cheating theme!
Good sex – Are myths getting in the way of pleasure?
What is good sex? What is the orgasm gap? Do men always think about just one thing? Does scheduled sex work?
Wellbeing:
How to boost your wellbeing in a relationship or as a single? Rediscover your joy and peace of mind under the Wellbeing theme!
After the Break Up:
How to survive the break up? Can you enjoy life when the break up process is still ongoing and your ex is giving you hell? What is life like after the break up? Can you get peer support in the middle of a break up? Learn to face you ex with dignity and respect after the break up even if towards the end your relationship you hated each other more than anything in the world. Chances are that once the break up is done and dusted, they longer have the power to irritate you and they may turn into a better friend you ever thought possible. Read more under the After Break Up theme
Single life:
Wild and free? Or at least wannabe wild and free? What is single life like? What are you going to do once you are on your own? Can being single again only fill you with angst? If you want a relationship but really don’t see yourself going on Tinder or any other dating app or website what to do? Read my life-affirming blog on single life here!
Books & publications:
Peer support and exercises in The (R)evolution for Love: A Better Relationship or a Brilliant Break Up? A relationship guide with a positive approach towards reaching a decision: whether it is to work on improving your relationship or to start the break up process. Read more about the book and the reader and radio and press reviews!
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Your Coach Kati Niemi
Clinical Hypnotherapist, NLP Trainer, M.Sc.
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How to improve your wellbeing through self-development?
Science has revealed: some adults are not mentally sufficiently developed. How to improve your wellbeing through self-development?
Why does our conscious mind question the power of the unconscious mind?
Is the power of the unconscious mind fake news and is trying to harness it to achieve our full potential a waste of time? What do we mean by the unconscious mind?
INFIDELITY and the collected excuses: The good reasons for cheating
CHEATING: What is a good reason to cheat? What do the cheated partner, “the other woman/man” or the cheater choose to believe in?
What is an open relationship? Does it lead to breaking up?
What is an open relationship? Who are non-monogamous open relationships for? Is your partner suggesting consensual non-monogamy?
Narcissism in a Relationship: “How to Know if My Partner Is a Narcissist?”
What are the signs and causes of narcissism? Can you make a relationship with a narcissist work? Can you heal a narcissistic partner?
Aromatherapy for Libido & Romance – The Best Essential Oils for Love
Sense of smell influences our sexual desire and performance. Aromatherapy tips and the best essential oils for romance, libido, sex and love.
When positive thinking becomes toxic
What is too positive thinking like? Where should we focus the power of our mind and our willpower?
TO BREAK UP OR NOT TO BREAK UP? Should I stay or should I go?
How do you know if you should leave or not. How to make the decision to break up or to improve your relationship? To break up or not?
